We all have conversations with ourselves!
The thing we have to be aware of is the type of conversations we have with ourselves. Some of them can be healthy – especially the ones that are self-motivating – but some of them can be dangerous.
Take this example…
For most of my adult life, I have struggled with a little excess weight (okay, I’m trying to be kind to myself – it’s a more than a “little”) . Exercise and I have not been the best of friends. Recently, I made it a point to get acquainted with exercise and have started to have a relationship with my local gym. Just last week, I started a 13-week “biggest loser” program with 9 other people.
On the first day of the program, Jan Burley (our personal trainer and guest on episode 16) made us run 1 mile. I was completely paralyzed by the thought of having to do this. My inner voice was screaming loud and clear – “YOU CANNOT DO THIS!”
For several years, my inner dialogue has kept me away from the gym. Until recently, I had convinced myself that I was not cut out for exercise.
Well things are changing. I did run the mile (no a very fast one), but I did it. And, I ran it without walking. The best part of it was not that I actually did it, but the noticeable change I experience when I now have a conversation with myself about exercise. I am slowly changing the dialogue from “you can’t do this” to “yes you can.”
In the end it’s simple. There are obstacles all around. Reaching your goal will not be easy. The road to success never is.
All I know is this…. the last time I ran was in 1983, my freshman year in high school. It was a cross-country race in which I finished last. When say I finished last, I mean they-were-packing-up-and-waiting-for-me-to-finish-so-they-could-all-go-home-last!
Look at me now. I ran a mile and the conversation I’m having with myself are a lot more positive than they’ve ever been.
So tell me, what conversation are you having with yourself that is preventing you from taking the first step?